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Why are we afraid?

If you simplify to the limit , we can safely say . that all human life is managed only two emotions-fear and love. Everything else — only derived from the two poles of the human psyche. However, each opposite the beginning there is the germ of its opposite —with love, we fear for their loved ones, and in fear for her life like all of its manifestations.

But this philosophy. What can be said about fear, specifically? First, the fear — it’s a physiological reaction to external stimuli. Remember, what you feel, when you are a stranger runs up big dog? The spine is rolled cold palms are sweating, heart is caving in “heel”. The doctor would at this point noted the change in blood pressure, increased heart rate and the secretion of gastric juice. By the way, the same way it would react and the dog, if you suddenly take in a hand a stick and starts to approach her with clearly hostile intentions.

Primarily this suggests that the mechanism of fear we, as in animals, is a continuation of the instinct of self-preservation, avoiding hazards and save lives. According to the idea of evolution, sudden release of adrenaline in the blood (as a continuation of the chemico-physiological changes when frightened) should increase the reaction rate, that is, or we quickly think about what to do, or quickly run away. Thus, we can conclude that fear itself — the phenomenon is rather positive and progressive.

But we then managed to outsmart mother nature. The existence of such “appendage” in comparison with the animal world), the mind as a good intention to protect us, beloved, turned into a classic way to hell: “normal”, situational fears we have cultivated ingrained fears, imaginary, which, interwoven, gave us instead of a healthy shake-up of the body of neurotic reaction and a life full of anxiety and doubt.

For convenience, we define the key terms. Fear — this is a momentary reaction to the unexpected appearance of (often unknown) factors. Remember the proverb: fear has big eyes? It is about what an unfamiliar environment, object, or creature seem more threatening, because we still don’t know what to expect from them.

Fear — a broader concept. It includes sudden fright, and a conscious feeling that we know what to expect, but anything good does not portend the future to us. For example, fear of punishment assumes that we are familiar with the upcoming procedure, but no joy on her experience.

As mentioned above, fear can be inspired by a real situation, and can be suggested to other people. To ingrained fears include fear of the dark, mythical creatures, strange people, and so on. Ingrained fears — that all the fears in which real danger is intensified by the imagination. By the way, it is in their appearance most often responsible adults. You had to tell the child: “hurry and Eat, and then a wolf will come and drag you into the woods”? Or less dramatic option: “don’t run, dropped!” Typically lo, in the minds of the little man printed only the second, more emotionally charged for him part of the phrase. And now the child is afraid to enter a dark room (“And suddenly there POPs up a mythical wolf!”) or loses the ability to take action. All the disadvantages and risks of such an education, we’ll talk later, but for now will continue to meet with terminology.

When we describe its state before any significant event for us, often instead of the word “fear” we use the concept of “anxiety”. That seems to be the symptoms are the same (and the pulse fails, and stomach rolls up to my throat, and my hands were shaking), and the brain replaces one term with another.

It just so happened that in russkom language “anxiety” we call the overall condition of the expectation of unpleasant events, which will have an impact not only on our health but on the perception of the world and himself. Agree, to the dentist to go “scary”, but to the boss “carpet” rather, “anxious” (of course, if the boss is not in the habit of throwing in subordinate heavy objects or cause other physical harm). And this brings us to two fundamental threats to which date back all existing fears — specific to the threat to life and health (in this case, we use the term “fear”) and the expected threat, self-affirmation, personal and social well-being (there is more suitable term “anxiety”).

However, like all others, this division is rather conditional. It just helps us to consider all the facets of the state, which may adversely affect the child’s development. Knowing all about fear, we will be able to define more precisely, what does a baby how best to help him.

So take another and due to personal fear. As the name implies . it is predetermined by the personality of the child, the main features of his character, the peculiarities of the psyche. So, insecure, impressionable child will give a very different reaction to a dangerous situation than it more “thick skin” of the same age. It is easy to assume that he has imaginary fears will be more than real, and acute fright rather go into chronic anxiety.