Answer the children’s questions
To answer the children’s questions . it’s an art. Great if parents happy children’s curiosity and to these questions the answers they find during. But it may be that unconventional children’s questions annoy you. which arise unexpectedly and at the wrong time, cause adults a sense of loss and tire.
Please be humorous patience, and understanding. Finally, get a notebook where you will record the “pearl” of your child. Years will pass and you will laugh together and postelwaite over them.
How adults respond to children’s questions? Here’s what One mom on the Internet asked the psychologist:
“My son is 5 years old, and lately he always puts the same pointless stupid questions. For example, why the right hand is called right, not the left, etc. our Whole family is already tired of his heightened curiosity. Advise, what to do, after all, and ignoring the issues is harmful to child development “.
In the question itself already contains the relation of the mother and the whole family to the child’s curiosity. It seems to me that a kind mother discourage his son’s desire to ask questions.
To all of this. psychologists engaged in the study of parental reactions to children’s questions, and found that an adult parent responds to a question given by the child, based on their experience, specific knowledge, and characteristics of their behavior. Scientists have identified ten common parental reactions.
The first reaction . Adult very surprised child’s question: “why does that surprise you?” “And what kind of color should be our blood, if not red?” “Odd, what are you doing”. But the child did ask you about that, because he was himself something strange and confusing.
The second reaction . In response to a child’s question “How many stars in the sky?», Adult responds “a Lot”. This response does not carry any information, the adult gives the child to understand that his question is stupid and primitive. From the same series adult answers “camel” and “in the beginning”.
The third reaction . Sometimes adults referring to some regularity, periodicity of events: “after winter comes the spring, because it always happens”, “the Leaves fall, because it happens “, “the Swallows are flying to warmer climes, because they do every fall”. It seems to be here for a little more information, but all children do not receive an answer to your question.
The fourth reaction. Not much sounds more serious answer: “the Fly is able to sit on the ceiling, because she is so arranged”. Philosophically, but without explanation: same as “so” arranged that fly? What its structure is different from human?
The fifth reaction . Sometimes adults accompany your answer with reference to any law or rule: “Objects fall on the floor under the law of universal gravitation”, “the Fish may be under water due to its anatomical structure.” But adults forget that children don’t know about the law of gravity and the structure of the fish.
The reaction of the sixth . Some moms and dads trying to give “baby answer” to a simple question. The child asks: “Who is stronger — a whale or an elephant?», — And his answer is: “who is stronger — a Hippo or a Rhino?”. “Why is it raining?” — “Because he felt like it.” Such responses will not help the child to understand the essence of things, and will only lead her to a standstill.
The reaction of the seventh. Adults love to use in their explanations of the principle of analogy: for example, if to tell about how the tree comes to life in spring, blossoms, and in autumn it leaves, you can easily return to the explanation of the cyclical nature of the seasons and spend a little lesson in natural history. This approach will be understandable to children.
The reaction of the eighth . The child will be clear explanation “from General to particular”. For example, “the leaves fall from the trees, it lives. And all life dies sooner or later”. The child begins to understand that nature — it’s part of the living world.
The reaction of the ninth. Of course the child needs explanation of the phenomenon: “Our body needs recuperation and rest, and why we need to sleep.” This answer explains much more, shows the relationship of cause and effect.
The tenth reaction . “The rain in order to grow plants that replenished the water reserves on the Earth” — appropriate explanation of the water cycle. Adult directs the child’s thinking and on the cycle of natural phenomena, and for the future.
So, if you want the child to grow up active, inquisitive, eager to learning new things, re-read the ten types of responses to the children’s questions . And when your child comes to you with his new “why”, answer so that his interest is not extinguished.
If the child came with his question specifically to you, then you need to rejoice, not despair. With its endless “why” the child to demonstrate her trust and love. And it must be properly evaluated.
don’t tell the child: “I’ll tell you later”.
Child curious to hear the answer right now, because its something surprised or is incomprehensible. Perhaps half an hour he will never remember what he was asking. So, no lazy, do not tell your child that you are at the moment busy and that “tomorrow will tell you what interests him”. As a result, you only negate the child’s desire to learn something new.
Take a look at the world through children’s eyes.
After all, it is not yet known chemistry, physics and other Sciences. And knowledge about what surrounds him while he is not much. So you need to explain “on fingers” and live examples. The simpler obyasnenie the better. However, do not overdo it, answering questions in very simple language. There are processes some phenomena which cannot be explained too primitive and simple.
Try to refer to various encyclopedias, reference books and search the Internet.
I think many parents don’t want to look in the eyes of a child dumb or too smart. What about parental authority which does not want to lose? «But nobody can know everything. There is nothing wrong in the fact that the father in question can not answer. “Let’s look for the answer in the encyclopedia”, — offers the father of the child, and the whole evening they would be happy to re-read any section, and then another will be to experiment: how does this work? Your authority as a parent does not suffer, and the child will learn to independently find answers to their questions.
Contact the person.
Suppose Your child had a question from the field of chemistry. But you do not know much about the subject. (To your mother worked all her life as a chemist, or friend has headed the chemical laboratory. Excellent! “Let’s Call grandma and see her, after all she is a good specialist!” — you Say to the kid. You can ask questions to doctors, television masters, sellers. in any professionals in their field.
Not “read” lectures.
No need to explain it’s too complicated and “arrogant”. Moderately short, the correct explanation will be remembered by the baby for a long time and make him think.
Try to follow the explanation of the experiment or illustration.
Our children a much better understanding of the explanation, if they draw “how it works”. Children’s brains are more receptive to the images of visual, hearing information more difficult to digest. So even if you are not very good at drawing, try to draw a simple diagram what you are talking about.
Don’t answer in monosyllables.
So, children — shaped creatures. But in order to paint a picture in my head, one or two words are clearly not enough. In addition, the child will immediately feel that you are not interested with him and you are not configured to communicate with him.
No need to humiliate the child.
Do not tell your child that he is still small, and it is difficult to understand or “How you not know this? If a baby has woznicki feeling of embarrassment, putting you a question, then soon he will cease to do it at all. Little pochemuchka allowed to not know something or do not know how to do something, and I don’t see anything funny or horrible.
Please answer seriously, with a little humor.